As a grandma, I’ve learned that what we say—and how we say it—can really shape our grandkids’ lives.
Our words can help them feel good about themselves and learn how to talk with others. That’s why it’s so important to speak with kindness and care.
In this article, I’ll share 19 positive things you can say to your grandkids and explain why each one matters. Remember, small words can make a big difference! Please don’t skip the last one (number 19).
1. “I’m listening”
This phrase shows your grandkids that their thoughts and feelings matter. It teaches them that their voice is important and encourages open communication.
Example: “Go ahead and tell me what happened—I’m listening.”
2. “It’s okay to make mistakes”
Kids need to know that messing up is part of learning. This phrase helps them feel safe to try, grow, and be themselves without fear.
Example: “You spilled the juice? That’s okay—mistakes happen. Let’s clean it up together.”
3. “You are so smart”
This encourages your grandkids to keep learning and trying new things. It helps them believe in their ability to think and grow.
Example: “You figured out that puzzle so quickly—you are so smart!”
4. “You make me happy”
Letting them know they bring you joy makes them feel loved and wanted. It boosts their confidence and emotional connection with you.
Example: “When I spend time with you, I feel so happy inside.”
5. “You are important”
Kids need to know their voice matters. This phrase tells them they belong and have value in your life and your family.
Example: “Your ideas at dinner today were great—you are important to all of us.”
6. “You can do it”
This builds perseverance and self-belief. It reminds them that even hard things are possible with effort.
Example: “I know that test is tough, but you can do it—just keep trying.”
7. “I am proud of you”
Letting them know you’re proud builds self-confidence. It shows that their actions and choices are seen and valued.
Example: “I’m proud of how you helped your little sister today. That was very kind.”
8. “I am here for you”
This phrase gives comfort and security. It lets your grandkids know they’re never alone.
Example: “If you’re feeling nervous about school, just know I’m here for you anytime.”
9. “You are loved”
Sometimes kids need a gentle reminder that love surrounds them, no matter what. This phrase brings peace and assurance.
Example: “Even on hard days, never forget—you are loved.”
10. “You are unique”
This helps kids feel special for who they are. It celebrates their differences and strengths.
Example: “You see the world in such a special way—you are unique and wonderful.”
11. “I trust you”
Trust builds responsibility and shows you believe in their choices. It encourages them to act with care and confidence.
Example: “I trust you to take care of the dog while I’m away—you’re very responsible.”
12. “I believe in you”
Hearing this helps kids feel supported, especially during challenges. It shows you have faith in their ability to succeed.
Example: “This project is big, but I believe in you. You’ve got what it takes!”
13. “You are capable”
Reminds kids they have what they need inside to face problems. It boosts independence and inner strength.
Example: “You are capable of figuring this out—I know you can.”
14. “You are so kind”
Praise for kindness encourages more of it. It tells them their gentle heart is something to be proud of.
Example: “You helped your friend today without being asked—you are so kind.”
15. “You are enough”
This phrase reassures them they don’t have to be perfect. It helps them accept and love themselves.
Example: “You don’t have to do anything special to earn love—you are enough just the way you are.”
16. “I appreciate you”
Appreciation tells them they are seen and valued. It strengthens your bond and shows gratitude for who they are.
Example: “I appreciate how patient you were with me today. That meant a lot.”
17. “You make me proud”
This tells your grandkids their actions reflect goodness and growth. It builds their desire to keep doing good things.
Example: “The way you stood up for your friend today—you make me so proud.”
18. “Thank you”
When you say thank you, you show that their help and efforts matter. It teaches gratitude and helps them feel appreciated.
Example: “Thank you for setting the table—you were a big help today!”
19. “I love you”
Saying “I love you” reminds your grandkids they are cherished just as they are. Hearing this builds emotional security and self-worth.
Example: “I love you so much, and I always will—no matter what.”
Conclusion
The words we say to our grandkids can really shape how they feel and grow. When we use kind and encouraging phrases, we help them feel good about themselves and build a strong bond with them.
As grandmas, we should think carefully about what we say so we can make a loving and lasting difference in their lives.
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