15 Things Grandmas Should Never Do (Even if You Really Want To)

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Being a grandma is the best! You get to be your grandchild’s best friend, biggest fan, and the one who gives the best treats and surprises. And yes—we take that job very seriously!

Now, being a grandma means we get to have a little more fun and worry a little less about rules (and isn’t that the fun part?). But—let’s be honest—there are still a few things we probably shouldn’t do, even if we really want to.

Wondering what I mean? Let me tell you all about it…

1. Don’t live in the past

It’s easy to say, “Well, back in my day…”—but times have changed, and so have parenting styles. Instead of comparing, try being curious about how things are done now. Your grandkids will love hearing your stories, but they’ll love your support in the present even more.

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2. Be careful what you watch around the grandkids

Let’s be honest—most of us grandmas have our favorite shows. I love my CBS soaps and then I usually flip over to the news. (Are you a soap-watching grandma too?) But even if the grandkids seem like they’re not paying attention, they usually are. They pick up way more than we think—like the love drama on TV or the scary stuff on the news. If you can, try recording those shows and watch them later when it’s just you.

3. Don’t forget to be silly

Sometimes we get caught up in being “the adult” and forget that laughter is part of the magic. Don’t be afraid to sing loud, wear a funny hat, or make goofy faces. Those silly moments? They’re the ones your grandkids will remember forever.

4. Don’t go overboard on the snacks

Oh boy… I’m guilty of this one! It’s just so fun to spoil them with treats. But too many sweets, artificial colors, or junky snacks can make their little tummies (and moods) go wild. A little is fine—just not all day, every day.

5. Don’t show favorites

It can be tempting to connect more with one grandchild than another—maybe you share a hobby or a personality trait. But be extra careful not to make it obvious. Every grandchild deserves to feel equally loved and special in their own way.

6. Don’t wear yourself out

Grandkids have so much energy! They can run, play, and laugh from morning till night. But let’s be real—we’re not built like we used to be. It’s okay to take a break, sit down, or even say, “Grandma needs a rest.” Taking care of yourself helps you enjoy more fun time with them, without feeling worn out later.

7. Don’t forget to listen

Sometimes we’re so excited to share stories or give advice that we forget to just listen. Whether your grandchild is telling you about their day or their dreams, really hearing them shows how much you care. Plus, you’d be surprised how much you can learn from their little hearts.

8. Don’t forget about your health

I get it—when the grandkids are around, we want to focus on them. But taking care of yourself is just as important. Don’t skip your medicine, your checkups, or that glass of water you meant to drink an hour ago. When you feel your best, you can be your best—for them and for you!

9. Don’t pressure your grandkids

We all want the best for our grandkids—but that doesn’t mean we should push them too hard. Whether it’s hugs, eating more dinner, or doing something they’re nervous about, let them go at their own pace. Love and patience go a long way!

10. Respect your grandchild’s parents

This one can be tough sometimes, but important. Even if we don’t always agree, it’s best to follow the rules the parents set. It shows respect, keeps everyone on the same team, and helps your grandkids feel safe and loved on all sides.

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11. Don’t cross the line with in-laws

Let’s be honest—relationships with a daughter-in-law or son-in-law can sometimes feel a little tricky. That’s why it’s super important to respect their choices and not jump in with advice unless they ask. We’ve got lots of wisdom, but knowing when to share it makes all the difference.

12. Don’t turn it into a grandma competition

Sure, we all secretly (or not-so-secretly!) want to be the favorite grandma—who doesn’t? But trying to outdo the “other” grandma or saying anything unkind about her isn’t the way to go. If your grandchild has more than one grandma who loves them like crazy, that’s a beautiful thing. Not every kid gets that kind of love, so let’s celebrate it instead of turning it into a rivalry.

13. Don’t let bad behavior slide

Yes, grandma’s house is way more fun—but that doesn’t mean there are no rules! Even when we spoil them a little (okay, a lot), they still need to be respectful and kind. A gentle reminder and clear expectations go a long way. They can have fun and learn what’s right.

14. Don’t ignore your grandchild’s feelings

Remember when boys used to be told “tough it out” or “don’t cry”? Yeah… that wasn’t the best advice. All kids—boys and girls—feel sad, scared, or even angry sometimes, and that’s totally normal. Let your grandchild know it’s okay to feel that way. Listen, hug them, and help them talk it out. They’ll feel so much safer knowing you understand.

15. Don’t miss the little moments

It’s easy to wait for the big stuff—birthdays, holidays, school plays—but the everyday moments matter just as much. Snuggling during a movie, baking cookies, or just chatting about their day can create memories that last a lifetime. Don’t overlook the small stuff—it’s often the sweetest part.

If you can think of other things grandmas should try not to do, I’d love to hear them! And hey—don’t forget, you’re doing an amazing job. Being a grandma is the best thing ever, even if it has a few tricky parts. I hope these little tips make your grandma days just a bit easier and even more fun. 💖

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