Have you ever felt like your grandkids don’t like you? That’s a tough feeling, but you’re not alone—and it’s probably not even true. You’re Grandma! That means you’re someone special and loved more than you know.
I understand that hearing kind words doesn’t always take the worry away. So, I hope the points below will help show just how much you really are loved, Grandma.
What to do if you think your infant grandchild doesn’t like you
This will be short and sweet—after all, you’ve raised your own kids and you know how babies are! If your grandbaby cries when you hold them, it’s probably not about you. They might be hungry, tired, need a diaper change, or just want to be close to Mom or Dad. Remember, babies are new to the world and still learning how everything works. Try not to take it personally!
This is actually the perfect time to start bonding. When your grandbaby is calm, hold them close. Rock them, cuddle them, and give gentle kisses. These sweet moments help build a strong and loving connection.
What to do if you think your toddler or preschool-aged grandchild doesn’t like you
Toddlers can be funny little people. They’re still small and sweet like babies, but they’re also full of energy, opinions, and mischief!
At this age, they’re just learning how to understand and manage their big emotions—so tantrums and outbursts are very common.
If your grandchild says, “I don’t like you,” don’t worry. They may just miss Mom or Dad, or they might be upset because you didn’t give them what they wanted. They don’t always mean what they say.
Try not to take it personally, Grandma. Give it a few minutes, and chances are you’ll be back to being their favorite person again!
What to do if you think your elementary-aged grandchild doesn’t like you
There’s a lot of growing and changing between kindergarten and sixth grade. Kids this age deal with new hormones, big feelings, and a strong desire to be more independent. Each of these can be tricky on its own—but together, they can lead to mood swings, wanting to be alone, or just plain grumpiness.
My best advice for this age group is simple: give them space, but let them know you’re always there when they need you.
You might hear some sass or get a little attitude that makes you wonder if they even like you. But try not to take it personally.
One more helpful tip—talk to their mom or dad. Share how you’re feeling. They can often explain what’s going on and help you feel reassured.
What to do if you think your teenage grandchild doesn’t like you
Ah, teenagers! You remember what it was like to be one—and you probably remember raising them too. Now your sweet grandchild has reached those teen years. Where did the time go?
It’s common for grandparents to feel left out during this stage. Your teen grandchild might not call or video chat as much. That doesn’t mean they don’t love you. Teens are busy with friends, school, and new interests. You’re still an important part of their life, even if they don’t show it all the time. Hang in there!
Unless your grandchild has clearly said they don’t like you, there’s no need to worry. And if you do feel unsure, it’s always okay to talk to their parents. They can help explain things or give advice to help you feel better.
What to do if you think your adult grandchild doesn’t like you
Just like when they were teens, your adult grandchild is probably very busy. School, work, family, and other responsibilities can make it hard for them to stay in touch.
That doesn’t mean they don’t care—it just means life is full. Even if you don’t hear from them often, you can still stay close. Try sending cards, messages, or little notes to remind them they are loved and that you’re always here for them.
If you do ask them if something is wrong and they say yes, it might hurt at first. But that moment can be the start of a real and healing conversation. Talking things through can help fix what’s broken and bring you closer again.
I hope you never need to use this advice. A break in your relationship with your grandchild can feel heartbreaking. But remember—most of the time, there’s no big problem. And if there is, a simple talk can often clear things up quickly.
Hang in there, Grandma. You are deeply loved, and you’ve got this!
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