Do you remember when your own kids were teenagers—or maybe when you were one? Those years were full of big emotions and lots of drama.
If you’re reading this now, it probably means your sweet grandchild is starting to go through those tough teenage years too.
It’s not always easy to be around a moody teen. Sometimes it might feel like they don’t want to talk to you or spend any time together.
But try to remember—this is a normal part of growing up. The good news is, there are still ways to stay close and connect with your grandchild.
I’ve put together a list of simple tips to help you handle the moodiness and spend more time with your teen grandchild.
From showing interest in what they enjoy to cheering them on when they do well, these ideas can help you grow closer and make happy memories together.
1. Respect Their Privacy
Give your grandchild space when they need it. Don’t snoop or ask too many personal questions. Let them have a place where they can relax and feel safe.
2. Use Laughter
Laughing together is a great way to connect. Tell funny stories, share silly jokes, or watch something that makes you both laugh. It helps make your time together fun and relaxed.
3. Don’t Give Long Lectures
Try not to lecture your grandchild. Instead, ask gentle questions and listen to what they have to say. This helps them feel respected and makes it easier for them to open up to you.
4. Make a Safe Place
Create a spot where your teen grandchild feels calm and safe. It could be a cozy chair to read in, a place to listen to music, or a quiet spot outside to talk. When they feel safe, they’ll be more likely to spend time with you.
5. Be Flexible
Try to adjust your plans to fit your teen grandchild’s schedule. When you’re flexible, it shows that you care about their time. This makes them feel important and more likely to spend time with you.
6. Listen Carefully
Give your teen grandchild your full attention when they talk. Look them in the eye, ask questions, and show that you’re really listening. This helps them feel heard and important. When they feel that way, they’re more likely to want to spend time with you.
7. Give Them Space
Sometimes teens need time alone. If your grandchild doesn’t feel like talking or hanging out, that’s okay. Give them space and let them come to you when they’re ready. Don’t push too hard.
8. Set Clear Rules
Make sure you both understand the rules and what’s expected. Clear rules can help avoid arguments and keep your relationship strong and respectful.
9. Be Around When They Need You
Let your grandchild know you’re there for them—even if it’s just for a short talk. Being available shows you care and want to be part of their life.
10. Be Patient and Kind
Teens go through a lot of changes. Sometimes they may be grumpy or distant. Be patient and try to understand what they’re feeling. Your kindness will help them feel loved and build a stronger relationship with you.
11. Tell Your Own Stories
Share your own life stories with your grandchild. Talk about what you did when you were their age or how you handled tough times. This helps them learn more about you—and may even help them understand their own feelings better.
12. Join In What They Love
If your grandchild is excited about something, like a hobby or favorite show, show interest. Join in when you can. This helps you grow closer and shows you care about what matters to them.
13. Get to Know Their Friends
Show interest in your grandchild’s friends. Invite them over if possible. When you care about the people they care about, it helps build a stronger connection with your grandchild.
14. Show Love in Small Ways
Little things matter. Write them a sweet note, send a kind text, or take them out for their favorite treat. These small acts show you care and help grow your bond.
15. Do Fun Things Together
Pick fun things to do that you both enjoy, like watching a movie, going out to eat, or playing a game. Even simple activities can help you make happy memories and grow closer.
16. Celebrate Their Wins
Cheer them on when they do something great—big or small. Your praise can help them feel proud, loved, and confident.
17. Offer Help
Ask if they need help with something, like homework, a school project, or filling out a job form. Helping shows you care and that you’re someone they can count on.
18. Be Interested in What They Like
Find out what your grandchild enjoys, like music, video games, or sports. Ask them about it and even try it with them. When you care about what they love, it shows them that you care about them.
19. Don’t Be Too Critical
Try not to criticize your grandchild. Harsh words can hurt your relationship. Instead, give kind advice and celebrate the things they do well.
20. Be There for Them
Let your teen grandchild know you’re there when they need support. Listen when they’re having a hard time and offer comfort. When they feel safe talking to you, they’ll be more likely to spend time with you.
Conclusion
Dealing with a moody teen grandchild can be hard. But remember—they’re growing and changing a lot right now. You can help by listening carefully, showing interest in what they enjoy, and giving them a safe and cozy space to just be themselves. These small actions can bring you closer and help you make happy memories together.
By using these simple tips, you can build a strong and loving bond with your teen grandchild—one that will last a lifetime! 🙂
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