Have you ever noticed how many silly rumors people say about grandmas? Most of them aren’t meant to be mean, but they can still hurt our hearts—especially when all we really want is to be the best grandma we can be.
So, let’s clear things up together. It’s time to gently bust a few of those common myths, starting with:
1. “Grandmas can take care of the kids anytime.”
We love our grandkids more than anything, and spending time with them is one of our greatest joys. But just like everyone else, we also have plans—whether it’s work, travel, or something already on our calendar.
Of course we want to help (and we’re happy to!), but we appreciate being asked, not just expected. It feels nice when our time and schedule are respected.
2. “Grandmas should provide regular childcare.”
Many grandmas want to help as much as they can—but I’ve spoken to more than a few who quit their jobs because they felt like they had no choice. If that’s not your story, that’s wonderful! But if it is, I understand.
Daycare can be pricey, and it’s hard to leave your little ones with someone you don’t know well. Just remember: you can love your grandkids deeply and still make choices that are best for you, based on your health, time, and budget.
3. “…And do it for free.”
Oh, believe me—I know times are tough, and we all want to help however we can. But caring for children full-time is real work. If a grandma has stepped in to help daily, especially after leaving another job, it’s okay to talk about being paid something. Every family is different, but this is an important topic that more people should feel safe to talk about.
4. “Grandmas judge how their kids parent.”
We see how hard our children are working to raise kind, happy kids—and we’re so proud of the little ones they’re bringing up. But sometimes, we just can’t help offering our opinion. I’m sorry! We don’t mean to judge.
Most of the time, we think we’re being helpful. But we now understand it might come across the wrong way, and we’re working on it—promise.
5. “Grandmas know everything.”
We’ve raised our kids and learned a lot over the years, it’s true! But we don’t have all the answers—especially with how fast things change these days. Still, we’re always happy to share what we’ve learned when you want our advice. (See? I’m already doing better than in #4!)
6. “The other grandma is our rival.”
Okay, okay… maybe we joke about this one—but we’re just playing around! Honestly, our grandkids are so lucky when they have two grandmas who love them dearly. I adored both of my grandmas growing up, and it makes me so happy to see my grandkids enjoy that same kind of love from both sides.
7. “Grandmas have deep pockets.”
If you’re a grandma who saved well and can help your family with money, that’s a wonderful gift. But if you’re not in that place, that’s okay too.
You should never feel like you have to go into debt or give up your own needs to support others. It’s important to talk openly with your family so they understand and respect your situation.
8. “All we want to do is spoil our grandkids rotten.”
Well… we do love giving gifts, sneaking them a few extra cookies, and covering them in hugs and kisses. But we don’t do it to spoil them—we do it because we love them with our whole hearts. Grandmas just have a special way of showing love. And let’s be honest—it’s not really spoiling when it’s coming from Grandma, right?
9. “Grandmas aren’t cool.”
Wait a minute—who said that? We rocked out to the Beatles, danced to Elvis, and drove VW Bugs and Buses. We’ve seen and done some pretty amazing things. So yes, we are cool—far out, even! And we’ve still got plenty of groove left.
And there you have it—some of the biggest myths about grandmas that need to be cleared up. Not every grandma deals with these things, but if you do, I hope this brought you a little comfort (and maybe helped others understand you better, too).
Thanks so much for being here, sweet friend. It means a lot to share this space with you. Let’s chat again soon!
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